A little update

I know its has been a while so I thought that I should provide a little update.

Things have been ticking along fine here. We had a lovely, and much needed, holiday in Mexico which helped to recharge the batteries after everything that went on over the last few months.

We then found ourselves approaching the 6 month mark since the last failed IVF cycle where we can try our last funded attempt. I called the clinic to just double check all was still ok to go ahead following the miscarriage and they said that, as we conceived ourselves, the PCT class us as now being 'fertile' and therefore we would have to wait until we have been trying again for a whole 3 years before we were eligible for funding!!

I know I cant complain too much as we are lucky that the PCT in our area lets you have the recommended 3 cycles and that some only give you 1 or worse still: none.  I also know its my fault for not checking after we had the miscarriage but also  no-one really pointed it out. Our GP certainly didnt and even asked if we would still try again.

But given that the fertility clinic were recommending we try and waive the 6 month wait between NHS funded cycles as, due to my poor egg quality/prematurely aged ovaries, the situation would only get worse and waiting would severely reduce our chances, it seems to wait 3 years would be rather foolish.

All we can do is try to get our GP to write a letter of appeal for us. I dont hold much hope on that as our GP didnt really seem to understand the system or understand why we couldnt have our last go.

The clinic have written us a supporting letter to go with the appeal which, though I know they are trying to help, I found upsetting. They say that the cause of most early miscarriages is usually embryo chromosomal abnormality which is also most prevalent with ovarian ageing. Does this mean that even if we do get pregnant again, we are more likely to miscarry as my eggs are old before their time?

So, we wait to see what the GP will come up with. Im not that positive. More so because even if we then have to do a private cycle, im not sure if the advice would be to seriously start to consider a donor egg. I wasnt ready for that yet. Our plan was to try our last free cycle and if the response was still poor and our chances so low then to move onto using a donor egg in a years time. Im just not ready to bring that forward yet.